?

Log in

No account? Create an account

Previous Entry | Next Entry

Sep. 6th, 2006

Okay, I have a strange question. I used to comment to posts by demonicamills, and had her listed as a friend. She went friends only, and apparently had never listed *me* as a friend. Which may be a hint, I don't know. Later she made a post saying is anyone wanted to be on her friends list, to let her know.

If someone is friends locked, and doesn't list an e-mail address -- how do you make a request to be added as a friend? Is there some way I'm not familiar with? 'Cause I'm not much for exploring around on the LJ faqs, and may have simply missed something.

Comments

( 14 comments — Leave a comment )
kazzy_cee
Sep. 6th, 2006 04:10 pm (UTC)
Usually people seem to have a post that is visible to both friends/non-friends and ask you to comment on that. Sometimes the comments go up to the hundreds! Obviously she doesn't have that?
ozma914
Sep. 7th, 2006 07:18 am (UTC)
Nope -- she's walled herself up completely except to people already friended. Her most recent post actually said:
"If you are really interested in my life and want to be on the list, let me know."

But there doesn't seem to be a way to do that, unless I'm missing something. I suspect she's trying to tell me something.
spikereader
Sep. 6th, 2006 04:15 pm (UTC)
Just go into the journal in question and comment to the post saying that they're going friends only. Even if the journal is flocked you can still click on the username and see any public posts they've made.
ozma914
Sep. 7th, 2006 07:20 am (UTC)
I tried -- even though up until the 5th I was still able to read her posts, I wasn't able to comment on any of them, including the two in which she mentioned going friends only. That's what struck me as odd: that I was still getting posts, but couldn't comment.
sunshine_tears
Sep. 6th, 2006 05:50 pm (UTC)
You comment on the post saying "if you want to be a friend, let me know." and you say "OOOO, addddddd me!"
ozma914
Sep. 7th, 2006 07:22 am (UTC)
I tried -- wouldn't let me. Maybe she was trying to tell me something?

Seriously, I'm so short of time and have so many other wonderful friends, I should just let it go ... mostly I'm bothered by the possibility that I said something to make her mad. Granted that I speak my mind, but I still don't like to upset people.
sunshine_tears
Sep. 7th, 2006 05:20 pm (UTC)
she must have a setting that's not allowing anyone but friends to comment. :(
ozma914
Sep. 8th, 2006 08:47 am (UTC)
It's the Super Secret CIA Setting!
sunshine_tears
Sep. 8th, 2006 05:56 pm (UTC)
mmmhmmm
synaptikchaos
Sep. 6th, 2006 07:20 pm (UTC)
well, no one else is really understanding your question, it seems.

basically, the girl didn't think it through, and disallowed all comments from non-friends--thereby ensuring that no one will ever comment to be added as a friend. i bet she wonders why no one is interested in reading her journal!

so basically, you'll have to go to one of her listed friends' journals and find a comment that she (demonicamills) has made, then respond to her in there and tell her what a dumbass she is, and that you want to be friended (in that order).
ozma914
Sep. 7th, 2006 07:16 am (UTC)
*Ding*! You got it -- she didn't leave any way for non-friends to get through to her, that's the problem exactly. In fact, in going back I realized she never made a "today I'm friends-only" post at all; just a comment that she was thinking about it. Then, yesterday, another post saying she's locked down friends only posts even more, which I'm not sure how you do that.

I'm not in the habit of calling people dumbasses, though (well, except politicians and criminals, but I repeat myself). Although we do share some friends in common, I have to accept the possibility that she may just not want any more friends, and/or that something I've written has pissed her off and she'd rather not hear from me. Truly, I'm not sure why I'm still receiving posts from her, if she's friends only -- maybe this "lock down" thing she spoke of will be the end of that. And maybe I should just let it go, rather than let it bother me, when I already have plenty of other people on my own flist.
synaptikchaos
Sep. 7th, 2006 08:12 am (UTC)
It's called LJ Drama
some people do that to get attention--they want everyone to comment actively in their journal otherwise they cut them from their friends' lists.

it could be that. or it could be what you said above. who knows.

the only reason you would still be receiving her posts is if she makes public entries (and you still have her friended, of course). if you logout and check out her journal, you can see she's made quite a few public posts July - August. (Or, I guess you could just look for the non-padlocked entries on your friends list, but this would probably be quicker.)

And you know, I just read her "friends-only" post, and it says...
It's pretty much down to people who comment or people whose stories I'm reading.

So there you go. It's just attention-whoring. If you want to read her, I'd just find someplace to reply to one of her comments. I doubt she'd turn down attention. You should remind her that she doesn't have to read your journal, she can filter you out of her friends list view, if that's her problem.
ozma914
Sep. 7th, 2006 10:19 am (UTC)
attention whoring
I'm of a mind to just let it go ... first of all, a part of me keeps insisting there's some sort of simply mistake that would explain the whole thing (I'm a closet optimist! I admit it!). Second, I've got way too much to do already and all these other great friends -- I figure if she doesn't want to keep track of me, there's no point in making a fuss about it.
synaptikchaos
Sep. 7th, 2006 07:07 pm (UTC)
Re: attention whoring
tru dat boo
( 14 comments — Leave a comment )

Latest Month

November 2019
S M T W T F S
     12
3456789
10111213141516
17181920212223
24252627282930

Tags

Powered by LiveJournal.com
Designed by Tiffany Chow