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An apology

If I've said anything to anyone that's in any way inappropriate or insulting lately, I apologize. As a few of you know, I suffer from Seasonal Affected Disorder ("winter blues"), and I've had a particularly bad month. In an attempt to sound like I'm still cheerful and upbeat, I sometimes go too far and get loud and obnoxious, and rarely do I realize when I'm doing it. I'm also terrible at taking hints -- not just in winter, but all the time. So I'm sorry if anything I've said has upset anyone, and I'll attempt to be more sensitive in the future.


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Feb. 17th, 2006 07:42 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear you're feeling a bit glum. We all go through these things from time to time and LJ seems to be a good place to rant and get it off your chest.
I'm sure the stress with your friend isn't help any either and I wish all the best to him still.
I'm sure no-one feels offended by what you've said, you always seem to be very comedian-esque. But I can understand how there can be mis-communications around here.
Hope you feel better soon. Take care!
Feb. 17th, 2006 03:43 pm (UTC)
The miscommunication was all on my part. But yes, the accident didn't help the way I already get this time of year, anyway. Sometimes things just get to me, and yes, LJ is a good place to rant -- especially knowing there are friends around who understand.
Feb. 17th, 2006 08:19 am (UTC)
I have problems with this, and a couple of years ago I bought myself a daylight lamp which I use for a couple of hours every day during the really dull days of winter (and sometimes during the dull depressing summers we have over here). It's been amazing in helping. Worth a try? You can get daylight bulbs from most online stores these days which you can put in any old lamp.
Feb. 17th, 2006 03:47 pm (UTC)
the light goes on
My doctor suggested that to me, but I never got off my rear and got it done. Okay, it's on the list for next time I get to where they sell them, which should be over the weekend. The way the weather forecast looks, I'm going to need all the help I can get.
Feb. 17th, 2006 05:19 pm (UTC)
Re: the light goes on
It's made a huge difference to me, so I'd really recommend it. Before all I wanted to do was eat starchy food and sleep all day. Now I actually have energy to do stuff and get on with life. Only takes about 30 minutes at the same time of day. I have mine on when I'm sitting checking emails :D
Feb. 18th, 2006 09:56 am (UTC)
Re: the light goes on
What -- there's something wrong with eating starchy food and sleeping all day? :-)

I'm on it -- I think I can find 30 minutes a day to check e-mails.
Feb. 17th, 2006 08:48 am (UTC)
I haven't noticed you being inappropriate or insulting anywhere, I hope no-one's been getting at you!

The SAD is a nuisance isn't it - my Mother-in-law's self-treatment of moving to Australia is not one I can reccomend to all!
Feb. 17th, 2006 03:51 pm (UTC)
that's just SAD
It was just one person, and I wasn't *trying* to be insulting -- just funny. And I didn't catch the hint that I wasn't being funny, which -- it isn't the first time for that.

What about moving to Austrailia only during our winters? Or my personal choice, Hawaii? (We're assuming I've got lots of money in this particular fantasy.)
Feb. 17th, 2006 09:09 am (UTC)
Aw, it sounds like stuff is just not going well for you (I haven't noticed anything inappropriate or insulting from you). Stupid winter and SAD.

I offer you chocolate and cookies! They're how I deal with winter, and of course BtVS as well as my other television obsessions. Fun distraction is always good!! *lots of hugs*
Feb. 17th, 2006 04:00 pm (UTC)
The inappropriate thing was one person that I know of, but you know what they say about the tip of the iceburg. I didn't want to lose anyone on my LJ list, so I thought it safe to make sure everyone knew I never set out to say or do the wrong thing. Blaming winter was more or less an afterthought, although it's occurred to me that every romantic breakup I've ever had as occurred during winter. Pattern? I'm afraid I might have to go down my list of old girlfriends and apologize to them, too.

But thanks for the chocolate and cookies -- that does indeed help, along with fun distractions. By the end of winter I have to work on taking off some pounds, but brush fire season starts in late March, so there's plenty of opportunity there to get some exercise.
Feb. 17th, 2006 09:21 am (UTC)
Sorry you've had a bad month. Your friend's accident can't have helped. I always find November a very trying month for some reason and I'm starting to wonder if that's because of SAD. I can't say I've noticed you being loud and obnoxious though...
Feb. 17th, 2006 03:53 pm (UTC)
November is when it starts for me. Things usually get a bit better in December, then go downhill again in January/February. By early March, I can see the end in sight even if the weather is still bad.

I've been learning that SAD is one of the most misunderstood and underreported problems there is. But I still maintain that I'm normal -- it's the people who *like* winter who are crazy.
Feb. 17th, 2006 11:49 am (UTC)
You -- loud and obnoxious? I don't see it. I think you've been fine. (I think I have SAD, too. It's a bitch-kitty, innit?)
Feb. 17th, 2006 04:20 pm (UTC)
Yes, it is, and since being diagnosed I've discovered just how many people I share the problem with. And -- that helps. :-)

I mostly get loud and obnoxious when I'm very tired, or drunk. Another good reason why I stopped drinking.
Feb. 17th, 2006 01:43 pm (UTC)
I've been sadly missing from LJ for the most part so I wouldn't have neccessarily noticed, but all I have seen when I was on, was someone who was very distressed over a friend's tragedy.

I've got SAD too. I've been thinking about getting one of those lamps and just haven't worked up the energy to do it!

I hope you get some decent weather soon so you can cheer up!
Feb. 17th, 2006 04:32 pm (UTC)
decent weather
I hope so, too. But do you know the one thing that cheers me up? It seems like *everybody* has SAD. That makes me feel so not alone! Mankind was simply not meant to live in cold climates, and we should all move to Hawaii. I suspect the Hawaiians would have something to say about that.
Feb. 17th, 2006 03:02 pm (UTC)
Baby, you can't offend me! Forgive me too for my blunders when I make them....I can't imagine anything you've said that's in need of forgiveness though.


One of my very best friends has SAD too and is considering a move from Ohio to Georgia or someplace sunnier because it is just too much.

Using my Hawaii fun icon to send some virtual sunshine your way.
Feb. 17th, 2006 04:37 pm (UTC)
what I did
Ah, yes, the Lilo and Stitch icon; I'd been meaning to mention to you how much I like that.

What I did was follow up a thread with a sexually suggestive "humorous" comment, completly missing the fact that it had been strongly hinted that I drop it. Just one person -- but, as I said in another reply, there's the tip of the iceburg factor to consider. I thought it best to make sure everyone understand that I'd never deliberately do something to anger or sadden anyone.

I know from experience that overcompensating for the way I feel during winter is often what gets me into trouble like that, but sometimes I just forget to stop that verbal (or in this case written) diarreaha.
Feb. 17th, 2006 06:13 pm (UTC)
Re: what I did
The Lilo and Stitch icon was from Noaluvsjames and it's snaggable if you credit her (you can snag it from ME and credit her if you want it).

I don't take hints well either! I'm a big flirt (as you've no doubt noticed)...like that in person too. Jim (husband) knows that abot me and knows I'd never hurt him by cheating on him either so he's fine with it. Hell, I flirt with you so you know I'm like that! It makes me smile (and, one would hope, you too). At any rate you've never offended me and I doubt is you could. The fact you worry about it shows you have a good heart and a good heart would never deliberately offend.

Feb. 18th, 2006 09:54 am (UTC)
Re: what I did
There's nothing wrong with flirting, as long as people know their limits. You know you're married (It'd be hard to forget that), so you know you can only go so far. Me -- I missed it.

Anyway, if a symptom of having a good heart is not deliberately offending people, then I guess I have one. I just don't have it in me to go out and upset anyone, even those I don't like, unless they do something to offend me first. Saddam Hussein? He offends me, so I don't like him, and I don't care if he knows. But that's an extreme example.
Feb. 17th, 2006 09:00 pm (UTC)
It sounds like circumstances have conspired against you, too - I hope you're doing alright. I don't find you loud and obnoxious :)

I'm a moody miserable cow, all year round, so consider yourself in excellent company ;)
Feb. 18th, 2006 09:27 am (UTC)
moody miserable
You? I find that hard to believe, unless you hide it as well as I do. You know, I've always sworn to be honest and "myself" as much as possible on the internet, since it's so hard to get to know people without physical interaction. But it occurs to me that such a thing might not be possible; people just have a different style to writing than they do to speaking, if you see what I'm saying. Everybody, at least subconsciously, presents themselves in the best way possible, and with writing you have time to think about what you're going to say.

Anyway, I'm doing okay -- I've survived many, many of these winters, and I'll continue to survive them. At least I know I'm usually much better during the rest of the year.
Feb. 18th, 2006 10:00 pm (UTC)
Does howling count??? cuz that upsetted me....
Feb. 19th, 2006 03:53 am (UTC)
Howl's singing castle
You're just never going to let me live that down, are you?
Feb. 25th, 2006 01:27 am (UTC)
Re: Howl's singing castle
no huh-uh
Feb. 21st, 2006 01:20 am (UTC)
Don't know what this is about so I won't butt in beyond saying I personally can't recall anything inappropriate or insulting you've said since I friended you. (You could move to Las Vegas to help with the SAD - but you'd probably give yourself a stroke over the drivers! Hope things improve as the days get longer.)
Feb. 21st, 2006 06:46 am (UTC)
There's only one person directly involved, who I apologized to and who accepted my apology. But hey -- we can all be accidentally insensitive, so I just wanted to tell everyone I was sensitive to my insensitivity, just in case. I really hate the thought of upsetting someone and not even realizing it.

I don't believe I'd like Las Vegas very much -- maybe the outskirts. I have entertained ideas of moving somewhere southwest. But no ... I have too many ties to this area. If I had the money for a winter home and could still live here the rest of the year, that would be different.
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