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when bad things happen to good people.

Not long before my shift began last night, a car became disabled out in the county, and the driver's son went out to help. A good samaritan stopped also, and when my friend went up to the window to thank that driver a woman driving way too fast lost control and crashed into them. My friend, a great father, former coworker (he also dispatched here) and one of the most purely good, honest men I've ever known, is on an operating table now, and will come out of it without a leg -- if he comes out at all.

The stupid driver who doesn't know to slow down on snowy county roads wasn't injured.

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demonicamills
Feb. 6th, 2006 01:30 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry. I am sending my good wishes to your friend
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 09:54 pm (UTC)
Thanks, he could use them.
keith5by5
Feb. 6th, 2006 01:35 pm (UTC)
Condolences
Life's rough. And not especially fair.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 09:55 pm (UTC)
Re: Condolences
Thanks. And no, especially not in this case.
pfeifferpack
Feb. 6th, 2006 02:03 pm (UTC)
{{{{{prayers for your friend}}}}} There are people who deserve this sort of thing and it rarely happens to them. So sorry.

Kathleen
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 09:57 pm (UTC)
Thank you, and the prayers are appreciated. Rob's a good Christian, in addition to being a good man, and as we all know some people are one but not the other.
leap_to_faith
Feb. 6th, 2006 02:37 pm (UTC)
Sorry Dad. We should send flowers or something.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 09:58 pm (UTC)
Yeah, good idea.
kazzy_cee
Feb. 6th, 2006 03:17 pm (UTC)
OMG - just amazing how people just ignore the weather conditions and drive like it's a beautiful day with dry roads!!! Hope your friend makes it OK.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:02 pm (UTC)
He's holding his own right now. I found out this afternoon that he has a hip and rotator cup fracture. They're trying to save his knee, so he can be fitted with a prosthetic more easily.

kittybeenbad
Feb. 6th, 2006 03:25 pm (UTC)
awwwwww omg that's horible *hugs tight* Hope everything turns out okay.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:03 pm (UTC)
Thanks, the hugs are particularly welcomed right now.
femmenerd
Feb. 6th, 2006 03:44 pm (UTC)
Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear that.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:05 pm (UTC)
I'm going through the whole grief vs. rage thing, and trying to hold both back until all the details are in. It's the main headline in tonight's newspaper, but I'm putting off reading it right now.
sunshine_tears
Feb. 6th, 2006 04:49 pm (UTC)
that's shitty as hell. :( stupid drivers!!!!!!!
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:07 pm (UTC)
Don't get me started on stupid drivers ... especially the ones who drive SUV's or, as I like to call them, "four wheeled ice skates".
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cbtreks
Feb. 6th, 2006 07:32 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Many prayers and good thoughts for him.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:13 pm (UTC)
He has a lot of friends, but the more prayers the better!
curiouswombat
Feb. 6th, 2006 09:12 pm (UTC)
You know it seems to me that well over half the time in traffic incidents (My cousin the ex traffic policeman says in his force they never call them accidents - that implies nothing caused it, and in road traffic incidents more often than not someone is at fault!)- the person at fault doesn't get injured.

We have two such cases just going through our courts at the moment - in one case two women died, one young man is confined to a wheelchair for life, his brother has debilitating head injuries which will probably means he will never work again, the baby daughter and (now ex) girlfriend of the idiot driver ended up in hospital - and him? He walked away.

I really hope that your friend makes as complete a recovery as possible - and his particular idiot driver ends up in jail, like the one I've just described has.
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:18 pm (UTC)
You're absolutely right -- in my experience the one who causes the accident is much less likely to get injured than those around him. Drunks, especially, can be thrown all over the place and just walk away, no matter how many others get hurt. After seeing this over and over for the last whole bunch of years, it becomes awfully difficult to have sympathy for them.
If you heard people in the emergency services business in private, talking about all the driver who wreck because they're stupid, you'd find pretty much zero sympathy for them. Poor Rob, who's probably one of the safest drivers i know, was just standing by a parked car at the time he was hit.
lillianmorgan
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:15 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending best wishes and good thoughts to you and your friend. ::hugs::
ozma914
Feb. 6th, 2006 10:19 pm (UTC)
Thanks very much. And to the dispatcher who took the call, and had just gotten off the phone with him when he was hit. She's pretty torn up about it.
myfeetshowit
Feb. 7th, 2006 04:42 am (UTC)
I hate driving in bad weather - half the people drive too slow when it isn't that bad, and the others drive too fast when is.

I know I would far rather be hit than to ever hurt someone. It amazes me how often the people who do seem to have no feeling of guilt.

How is your friend doing now? I'll send my prayers. At least he has a good friend in you, and in a world like this, that can make a big difference.
ozma914
Feb. 7th, 2006 01:52 pm (UTC)
He has all sorts of friends -- he's just an all around good, gentle person, and it pains me that so many bad things have happened to him in his life. It's one of the reasons I believe in an afterlife -- because I think the karmic scales have to be balanced, at some point.

There hasn't been any change that I know of since last night; they're still trying to save his knee today, to make it easier for him to walk in the future.

And yes, a lack of guilt when people do something wrong is one of the major problems in the world today. We used to be taught not only to understand right from wrong, but to undertstand what it meant.
untitleddemo
Feb. 7th, 2006 07:08 am (UTC)
Oh no, I am so sorry to hear this! Best wishes and hugs to you, your friend, and his family.
ozma914
Feb. 7th, 2006 01:55 pm (UTC)
Thanks -- the hugs come in handy right now. I'm especially pained for his son and daughter, who were in the car right nearby when it happened; and his son is autistic, so it must have been especially hard on him.
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