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Writer's Block: When I Grow Up

Do you ever do anything now that you swore you would never do when you were younger? What is it?


I swore I'd never, ever get married or have children. Ever. Under any circumstances.

Never say never, people.

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ozma914
May. 13th, 2009 04:46 am (UTC)
How do you think that worked out for me? ;-)
kassto
May. 12th, 2009 09:43 am (UTC)
That's a pretty sweeping thing to swear.
ozma914
May. 13th, 2009 04:48 am (UTC)
Well, my parents had a really nasty divorce and tried to use my brother and I as weapons ... then both my parents remarried crazy step-parents from hell. Add that to my ongoing fantasy that, as a famous fiction writer, I'd be able to sleep with any woman I wanted to, and you can see how I kind of soured on the whole marriage thing.

As often happens to such declarations, it didn't last!
kassto
May. 13th, 2009 04:52 am (UTC)
Oh, fair enough then! ``Crazy step-parents from hell'', huh. That sounds like fun. How many time have you taken your vows, then?

ozma914
May. 13th, 2009 05:25 am (UTC)
I've only been married once; it was one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time. We still get along fine, but we really weren't the types to survive living with each other for a lifetime. But I got two daughters out of it, so yay me!

As for crazy step-parents, my stepfather was just an abusive jerk; my stepmother, on the other hand, really *is* crazy.
kassto
May. 13th, 2009 09:10 am (UTC)
Well, my husband ran off with someone else, but I got two great boys out of it so yay me too. It was weird because no-one else in the extended family had ever had a marriage break down before so I felt like a real freak!

I don't now though.
ozma914
May. 13th, 2009 09:23 am (UTC)
Eek -- at least it was my wife who left me, rather than the other way around; we've got a certain amount of moral high ground. (In your case, a *lot*.) These days it's hard finding anyone who *hasn't* going through a breakup of their marriage.
kassto
May. 13th, 2009 09:30 am (UTC)
Well, both my sisters have longlasting and happy marriages (first ones, too). My parents lasted 50 years together before Dad died of lung cancer four years ago (though they weren't very compatible, they stuck it out together). So I am definitely the odd one out in my family. But yeah, there's a lot of it around. I found it really depressing for a while - not only my own marriage ending but the fact that so many do. Now, I don't know what I think about it all. I just feel OK myself. That's all you can do, I guess.
ozma914
May. 13th, 2009 09:47 am (UTC)
I admire long lasting marriages -- at least, as long as both parties are as happy as it's possible to be. But my mom is on her third marriage, and my dad is trapped in a marriage to a psychopath, so there are definitely worse things than staying single. The main thing is not to run into a long term relationship too quickly.
enigmaticblues
May. 12th, 2009 12:56 pm (UTC)
LOL! My brother said the same thing. We have a bet on now, because I don't buy it. If he's not married by the time he's 40, I owe him a really good bottle of wine, and vice versa. I'm looking forward to that wine.
ozma914
May. 13th, 2009 04:51 am (UTC)
You're going to get some wine over that!
vilajunkie
May. 14th, 2009 06:22 pm (UTC)
I'm not saying I won't ever get married, but I don't plan on having kids to continue the family legacy (my mother is genuinely worried about having a legacy) or satisfy my parents' need to live vicariously through grandchildren. If I have kids, they're going to be adopted to save orphaned kids (or kids from bad homes) from having a rough life as wards of the state.
ozma914
May. 15th, 2009 06:10 am (UTC)
My girlfriend has similar feelings on that issue. I never gave it much thought myself, until my daughter got pregnant and I tried to convince her to give them my last name! I had to settle for my last name being used for one of the twins' *first* name. :-)
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